I do apologize for misinterpreting your position. I may well have been too direct.
You're aware of needing to work through your desire for the entire family to go. That's important and what I intended to convey, that it's your feelings that might be the larger issue.
There's a very good chance this loving mother has already done that, seems to me.
It's the daughter's "might not go" and "didn't want me to get the tickets" that suggests to me finding out "what she really is scared of" could go sour fast. Why isn't feeling unsafe about going to Florida now enough?
Additionally, "We all went to
Disneyland last winter and was consistently mis-gendered (thank you sir, when she's in a dress) so she's used to that aspect,..." I certainly wouldn't want to go to any other place that's Disney only to have that happen again at what's promoted as a safe space. That would be more insults to endure. Why would I want to take that risk? I wouldn't.
"I also want to know if it is really THAT bad that she is right - she said there was a travel advisory or something sent out recently saying any LGBT person shouldn't go to Florida at all."
What we tell you about how bad it is or isn't doesn't matter. That your daughter feels unsafe going to WDW now is all that truly matters.